UPDATED EDIT 07/08/2022 at 10pm
It looks as though we are in for another bout of temperatures in their late twenties later on in the week. Therefore, from 10th to the 14th Aug we are only taking two bookings a day; one at 10:30am and on at 7:30pm. There will be no afternoon bookings as the massage room just gets too hot for comfort.
AUGUST OFFERS !!!!! SIX GREAT OFFERS BELOW...
August is traditionally our quietest month, so it’s a great time for us to make some fabulous offers and for clients to make use of them while they last.
These offers will run from Tuesday 2nd August through to Sunday 11th September. All other services and prices remain the same.
1. A thirty minute REIKI session with Val. £10
2. COUPLES SEX AND RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING. This with Bri and the sessions will last a minimum of two hours each. These will mostly be conducted with Bri’s (qualified) counsellor hat on, although references to massage may also be made if appropriate. Clients can talk about such things as communication, work-life balance, sex and ageing, sex and menopause, marital boredom (the silent marriage killer), sexual differences, empty nest syndrome, midlife crisis, the concept of monogamy and other different kinds of relationship, roles within relationships, how changes in health can effect your sex life, having realistic expectations, meeting each others needs, the effect of having children on relationships, finding your own style versus fitting in with the crowd.
The fee is £80 per two-hour session.
3. TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR COUPLES. One hour, £110. An hour and a half, £140.
4. COUPLES HAVE-A-GO-YOURSELF MASSAGE WORKSHOP DAY. This is offered at a massive reduction from £140 down to £100. Whenever we’ve done these days before it’s always been great fun for everyone, with plenty of laughs, plus you learn something to take away and do yourselves. You will be practicing both on each other and on us. (By “couples”, we mean any two adults of any gender who know each other by way of relationship or friendship). We show you basic techniques and go over most of the do’s and dont’s of massage. The day runs from 10am to 4pm and includes refreshments. The workshop can be tailored towards conventional Swedish massage (underwear on), naturist Swedish massage (underwear off), or a kind of more sensual combo of naturist Swedish/Tantric massage. You decide and let us know in advance.
We sometimes get enquiries from individuals asking if they can come on their own or team up with someone else. There are two answers to this. You can’t come on your own. There are specific reasons we don’t offer this to individuals which are too complicated and long-winded to go into here. However, if you are prepared to risk attending with another individual whom you have never met before and know nothing about, then we can have a conversation about that and provide you with some more details. You will then be asked to wait until we find a suitable match and arrange a date you can both make. (The "waiting list" for individuals to partner-up has already started. We anticipate more male enquirers than females, so if there are any single females interested you're pretty sure to be booked on. You will both be mostly practicing and working on me and Val, but we will take steps/vetting to ensure that whoever is attending with you is likely to be someone you'll get along with.)
5. WOMEN ONLY. Free menopausal wellbeing consultation with Val, lasting up to an hour. If you are approaching menopause, in the middle of it, or coming out of menopause and you have concerns about how it is affecting you mentally, physically or sexually, then Val has looked into this sort of stuff herself and has recently completed a course on it. Eventually this will be a chargeable service, but for the time being Val can offer this for free.
6. COUPLES INTRODUCTION TO TANTRIC MASSAGE. This is aimed at couples who aren’t sure about taking the plunge and booking a tantric massage but are sensually curious and daring enough to want to find out more and maybe add touch of spice. The session includes chatting with me and Val about where each of you are at in regard to your own erotic curiosities, past experiences with sensuality, and what you imagine you’d like to experience or find out during tantric massage. Val and I will then ask if you’d like to experience a demonstration of the beginnings of tantric touch, which can be as tame or as daringly liberal as you like. This puts you in total control of your own experience. We can tell you what we can provide, and you can (in effect) pick from the “menu” and try stuff out. There is no time schedule for this, but we anticipate somewhere around ninety minutes. You can then go away and reflect on your experience and get back to us if it’s something you’d like to experience more fully. The fee for this is £95. WE RECOMMEND THAT YOU ALSO CONTINUE TO READ THE APPENDIX / BACKGROUND CONTEXT TO THIS OFFER BELOW.
“How do I want to be touched?” is not a question most folks are accustomed to giving much thought to, or maybe no thought at all.
Touch is often a thing we think about giving to others, but not really understanding how we ourselves want to receive touch, or the different types of touch available.
Bodywork and relationship therapist Betty Martin devised an interesting type of massage for clients who wanted to think about how they wanted to be touched and (crucially) learning how to ask for it. She told the clients she would only do what the clients asked her to do. If they didn’t ask for it, they didn’t get it. The ball was in the client’s court and the client was in complete control. This scenario was completely new for some clients, especially women. In a sexual relationship the pressure on women is to just follow the man’s lead, expect him to know what he’s doing, and make sure his needs are met and he’s happy. The pressure on men is to be the macho guy who knows exactly how to satisfy a woman. The funny thing is… it often doesn’t work out that way. I don’t recall us men having a teacher in school who came into the classroom and said “Right lads, today we’re going to be looking at how to stimulate a woman and bring her to orgasm so she’s clamouring for more”. It didn’t happen. Or maybe I was off for that lesson? Men are left to figure it out via instinct and hearsay. Women just cross their fingers and hope he gets it right! All too often it’s over in a flash, the guy has shot, and the woman is only half-way to climax. He gets his release, and she’s thinking “Bloody marvellous! You’re okay but what about me? Is that it?” Relationship author and therapist, Esther Perel, wrote, “In order to want sex , it has to be sex that’s worth wanting”.
Anyway, back to the massage scenario…. One of Betty’s first clients to try this out was a lady. She just lay on the massage table and Betty stood alongside. Nothing happened for 15 minutes or so, just the awkwardness of tumbleweed moments. Eventually the clients said, “Can you put your hand on my leg?” Betty placed her hand on the clients leg. Didn’t move it around or rub her leg, just placed it there. The client got really emotional and said it was the first time she’s ever given any consideration to how she wanted to be touched. Up to that moment she had no experience of asking for what she wanted as it had all been about accommodating others.
What is it about touch that thrills some, and terrifies others? Why is it a soothing, nurturing comfort to some, but a threat or invasion of personal space to others? Why does erotic touch feel entirely in tune with biological normality for some, but weird or distasteful to others? For some, a hug is a loving, welcoming, bonding experience, but for others it’s just too intimate even with close friends. Our past experiences and upbringing probably have a lot to answer for. For some, it’s social and religious conditioning, or the speculative idea that “Good girls don’t do such-n-such”. These are what psychologists refer to as “constructs”: the beliefs we construct in our minds about the way we think things “ought” to be. They are usually based on opinions and beliefs rather than absolutes. But some opinions become so entrenched and set in stone that we act as though they actually are reality, and that no other options are available or credible. And it is still surprising in this day and age how many people still think it’s their remit to police and control the consenting actions of others. The notion of monogamy is an example of a construct. It’s a common construct and it suits many to follow it, but it’s still just a construct nonetheless. Other “brands” are available, as they say. Most of the animal kingdom are non-monogamous, yet many of us are conditioned to believe that monogamy is a default position, and that it’s the end of the world if we don’t comply. Monogamy is not a default; monogamy is a choice… a common choice that many people make, but a choice nonetheless. Other choices are available too.
Some people (again… more often women than men in our experience) have been conditioned to think that any form of self-exploration, borne out of curiosity or pleasure, is just plain wrong. When you ask why they think that way they can’t explain. “Just because…” is often the reply. Then there are those who limit themselves so much in their sensual exploration with others that not only do they miss out themselves, they also limit mutual pleasure too. Our sessions with couples experiencing difficulty in these areas may help unlock your sensual creativity.
Some folks simply haven’t learned how to let their hair down and explore what’s possible to experience. We know of women who haven’t had an orgasm until they are in their 30s or 40s, and in one case 50. There are various reasons for this, too numerous (and too personal) to go into. Suffice to say that all this stuff can be explored at your own pace in our tantric touch/tantric massage sessions. Some women aren’t even sure if they’ve ever had a “proper” orgasm or not. The women who have had proper orgasms will tell you that if you aren’t sure, then it ain’t happened. You know when you’ve orgasmed!
Einstein said “curiosity has it’s own reason for existing”. He also said, “Why not go out on a limb? Isn’t that where the fruit is?” He was used to narrow-minded skeptics, and he gained his reputation by ignoring them all and indulging his curiosity and keeping an open mind. Most human beings are naturally curious, and many are also creative too in various ways. It’s how we develop and learn and discover new things. Unfortunately many education systems aren’t very well geared up to accommodate creativity and curiosity. We just learn facts and get told what’s what. Controlling and conditioning environments can suppress and inhibit creativity, because the last thing controlling people want is for others to think for themselves. Some people are unfamiliar with how their own bodies work in relation to pleasure. We are set up for pleasure until some ignorant or religious twerp wags their finger in some kind of misguided disgust. They like to call the shots and shut down anything that smacks of erotic pleasure. They deny and disown not only parts of their own humanity but parts of other people’s humanity too. We’d still have the square wheel if we paid much attention to those with goldfish bowl mentality. About five hundred years ago a Polish scientist called Copernicus realised that it wasn’t the sun going around the earth, it was the earth going around the sun. And the model of the solar system was born. A few decades later, Italian scientist Galileo confirmed this and the local religious authorities put him under house arrest for heresy until he “took it back”. (Which he didn’t). Talk about closed-mindedness! Today, we know better, but in the erotic and sexual arena there are still those who shut themselves of from learning about pleasure.
Wrapping this up… whilst many people are quite familiar with how to enjoy their own and other peoples sensuality, there are plenty who aren’t. Things that some folks take for granted are relatively new for others; even those who are older. Age does not always mean experience. Our massage/ tantric massage sessions can put you back in touch with your sensual self. For those who are curious enough to explore touch in it’s various forms. Arnold Schwarzenegger once said “If I’d have listened to the nay-sayers I’d still be yodelling in the alps”. So many folks sacrifice discovery and change for fear of criticism from others, and they end up living according to other people’s constructs instead of a more authentic and satisfying life. The lament of many men is that their partners have “gone off sex”. The lament of many women is that “he’s not attentive enough to how I need to be touched and then wonders why I’ve lost interest”. We can provide sessions to help close that gap.
VOLUNTEER COUPLE WANTED FOR TRIAL SERVICE. We are looking for a couple to volunteer for a new form of sensory massage that we want to try out. Whilst it is not blatantly sexual, it is most certainly not for the reserved, the bashful or the coy either. It will be entirely new and experimental for us and there’s every chance it could be a good laugh too. It’s not something we would dare offer as a paid service until we’d tried it out first, because it might not work or go to plan. On the other hand, with a suitably liberal couple who don’t take themselves too seriously it might be a roaring success. Full details can be sent by email on request but ONLY on the basis that BOTH partners confirm their interest in finding out more, before we waste enormous amounts of time replying to nosey male armchair fantasists who will never actually come. Confirmation by both partners is “a must” before we email out the details.
NEW CONSULTATION SERVICE STARTING VERY SOON FROM VAL. Although this website concentrates on our massage services, both Val and I also have other strings to our bow and have been involved in the general arena of complementary/therapeutic services for the last ten years. Val has now completed a "Menopause Wellbeing Practitioner" course and is finalising her thoughts on how to present this consultation to female clients to whom it may concern and be relevant. To start with, however, Val is offering hour-long sessions for free to the first few women who enquire and book in. This is whilst Val tweaks and adapts what she's learned so it forms a suitable presentation/consultation that can be moulded into a chargeable service. (She may ask for feedback and/or a testimony she can use on this or another website). Females can book in for a face-to face private session with Val where they can ask questions and glean from Val's understanding of going through menopause and how it affects your emotions, your energy, your mental agility, your hormones, your body temperature, your moods, your sleep, your genital area and your sex-life. Val may also offer telephone consultations when she's up and running.
OTHER NEWS. We have performed a few 4-handed massages recently, which we stopped doing for a while but have decided to do now and again, mostly for existing clients who have asked about this in the past, but we might consider it for new clients too. Same goes for male-to-male massage, which we stopped for a while but will now be considered on a client-by-client basis. Enquire if interested.
There has been an increase in enquiries about couples massage since we reinstated our advert in H&E. This is great for us although we still get men who enquire (and even book!) before they've even asked their wives/partners; only for it to fall through and amount to nothing. PLEASE TALK to your partner and get on the same wavelength before contacting us. We are not here for the amusement or wishful thinking of fantasists who are partnered with someone who does not share their liberal vision of sensual exploration and discovery. We do, however, see genuine couples who have talked beforehand and are singing from the same sheet about how they'd like their experience to pan out. Please also check your female partner's "monthlies" calendar when considering a date to book in. When we say "couples" we are also including same sex couples.
Please note that our FAQ page has been completely re-written and updated, so that might be worth a visit if you're wondering about anything (click HERE). The couples massage page has also been updated, with extra info added (click HERE). If you can think of a question that you think would be useful to include on our FAQ page then drop us a line and we'll consider adding it.
NEW SERVICE. Val has now completed her second Reiki course and is ready to offer this service to clients. Reiki is available to everyone, but it tends to have more appeal to females than males (generally speaking) so please tell your wives and girlfriends and family members if you think they'd be interested. Click HERE for more details.
COUNSELLING. Whilst this website is primarily dedicated to massage, I like to draw attention at this time to the other side of “Timeout Therapies”. Namely, counselling. In 2017 I (Bri) qualified as a counsellor with a foundation degree. And I’ve been practicing privately ever since. I’m also an accredited member of the National Counselling Society and as time has progressed I’ve tended to pay more attention and lean towards relationship issues and couples counselling. I’ve copied links below to my counselling website and also to my profile on the counselling directory. The fees are detailed on these sites but if anyone is interested and lives far away then there are cost effective options for day rates and double sessions.
Welcome To Timeout Therapies for Counselling (timeoutwellbeing.co.uk)
counselling in Runcorn, WA7 - Counselling Directory (counselling-directory.org.uk)
How clients find us/"Are you still open?" Clients find us through various means, and one of them is via the ad we sometimes place in H&E magazine. However, the ad is not placed continually as a standing order with the magazine: it comes and goes. At the moment we have not renewed it but may do so in a few months time. Please do not think we've closed just because the ad has disappeared off the magazine website!
Female Enquirers. Some things ebb and flow and seem to come in waves, then die down for a while. One or our recent issues is to do with enquiries made by people we strongly suspect to be phoneys, cranks or timewasters. What they get out of it I really don't know. Is it that they get off on practical jokes or the feeling they're putting one over on you? God only knows! One such phenomena is enquiries suposedly made by females (emails and texts) but we reckon it's sad gits trying to amuse themselves. There are giveaway signs. We will therefore be requesting that all enquiries made by females are confirmed by a phone call before we go any further with providing details.
PERSONAL HYGEINE. Recently we have suffered an increase in the number of clients who are turning up in a state of poor personal hygeine, to the extent that we now feel it needs a specific note on this page. This is often because clients come straight from work, or mid-day during work time. From our point of view, the quickest way to kill off any sense of rapport, connection and eroticism is to turn up looking like a bag of rags or smelling of unpleasant odours. It's a total atmosphere killer, and almost always guarantees you'll not a get any further bookings. Val is up close and naked during tantric massage, and she's also meticulously clean (often showering several times a day). It is simply disrespectful to turn up in a poor state of hygeine and just expect Val to lump it and get on with it.
PRIVATE PAMPERING FOR COUPLES IN THEIR OWN HOME, OR FOR PRIVATE GATHERINGS. It is possible that we may consider visiting you in your own home, to provide massage for couples or for private "friends nights in" gatherings. But the crunch is this, in order to deter fantasists, timewasters, daydreamers and fake bookings (believe me... it happens!), this service would come at a premium and will require a non-refundable deposit in advance. Quotes will be given on a client by client basis, and will also take travelling times into consideration.
COUPLES HAVE-A-GO-YOURSELVES DAY.
This is listed under our Day Courses tab on the website. We’ve recently done a few of these days for couples and it occurred to us that it’s worth mentioning as it's a great day for everyone and it often gets overlooked. It’s a chance to have a go at performing massage for your private personal use with a partner or with friends. The basis of the day is informal instruction on the basics of Swedish massage, but can be modified to include other aspects of massage such as naturist or tantric massage. When we say “couple” in regard to this course, we mean any two people who know each other and want to book in together, in the knowledge that they’ll be practicing on each other and on us too. So it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be in a relationship with the person you are attending with, and it also includes same sex couples too. We can only accommodate one couple at a time so you can rest assured of privacy and our undivided attention. Click HERE or message us for more details and availability.
COMING UP... (possibly) IDEAS ABOUT FUTURE SERVICES.
COUPLES INTIMACY COUNSELLING AND PRACTICAL SESSION – this is one of those ideas that I have mapped out in my mind but am struggling to describe in text. The counselling part would be delivered by Bri, but the practical part may be delivered by just Bri on his own or in partnership with Val. I (Bri) see couples in both my capacity as a counsellor and my capacity as a massage therapist. But combining the two has it’s challenges, mostly because most professional membership bodies that represent the counselling profession take a very dim (and in my opinion, downright narrow-minded) view about crossing what they regard as therapeutic boundaries. Nevertheless, I have come across plenty of therapists who have managed to combine the two in some form of sex therapy/intimacy coaching. This service would be entirely bespoke, with quotes and formatting to be decided upon a case by case basis. There would be a counselling session followed by practical interaction/massage in the therapy room. This service would be aimed at couples who have reached an impasse or are struggling to get on the same wavelength in their sex life, or who struggle to reach orgasm, or who want to inject some energy and vitality into their bedroom fun. It’s not aimed at couples who are okay in this department but just fancy some antics with the therapist! It’s for couples who want to improve intimacy, or who have a conundrum to solve or who want to explore aspects of sexuality that they feel are difficult to talk about just between themselves. ALSO, RELATED TO THIS... One of the things we’re currently thinking about, is the idea of providing a series, or short course on “Introduction to Tantra”, or “Introduction to Sensual Touch”, or “Introduction to Sensual Self-awareness”. The title is up-in-the-air at the moment. It would primarily be geared towards couples and females, although men could book in too. The reason we say aimed at couples and females, is that there seems to no shortage of uninhibited males who are quite at ease with sensual touch. But there seems to be a greater percentage of females than males, who are subjected to very fixed and limited ideas about sensual touch. In our experience, females are more likely to conform to restrictive social conditioning, more likely to be influenced by what their mates might think, and more likely to give heed to all the negative messages that sanctimonious elements of society inflict upon us. They are also more likely to be slaves to notion that their job as a partner is only to pay attention to the man’s physical needs, rather than give equal consideration to their own needs. We have also come across women who have been in long-term relationships, or even several short-term relationships, but they’ve rarely or never experienced orgasm for themselves during their sexual encounters. (Though some have become surprisingly good a faking it). They’ve also never given any thought to how they want to be touched, or what feels good for them. This may astound some of you, but it’s true. It’s not uncommon to hear of women having their first orgasm in middle age, or after they came out of a stale long-term relationship and got with a guy who knew his way around a lady’s genitalia. Some women (and I’ve heard them interviewed) only really found sexual pleasure when they finally realised they were “allowed” to. And that it wasn’t the end of the world to actually let your hair down and just enjoy yourself.
We are, of course, generalising. We’ve also met some pretty curious and liberated women! So please don’t think we mean every woman or every man. We are talking about our experience and what we hear from others too.
What we are thinking of is maybe three, two hour sessions, held on consecutive weekends, for those couples/singles who want to try sensual massage but are apprehensive or nervous, and would prefer a slower, more gradual introduction to this kind of experience. This would involve going right back to basics, so the first session would mostly involve basic considerations about sensual touch, considering our needs, what turns us on and what turns is off, the importance of communication and consent, the difference between “consenting” and “wanting”. And also something called The Three Minute Game, learning to ask for what you want, learning to ask “Can I...?” and “Will you...?”. Finding confidence to state your position by learning to say “No thanks”, “Yes please”, “I would like...”, and “Would you like...?”
Subsequent sessions would develop according to your own pace, needs and responses.
The three sessions would be a sort of combination between counselling, coaching and sensory massage practicals.
This course would be aimed at:
- Those who are thinking of booking tantric massage but aren’t sure.
- People who have become conditioned to only pleasing others and never consider their own needs.
- Those who have trouble saying “no”
- Those who want something but have trouble asking for it.
- Couples/individuals who feel they have practical, physical, or emotional blockages when it comes to bodily awareness and the giving and receiving of sensual touch.
- People who feel that they’ve received negative messages about sexuality or physical pleasure from society, religion or family.
- People who have had unpleasant/unhealthy sexual experiences in the past and would like to get better acquainted with how healthy, consenting experiences can operate.
- Those who instinctively want to feel more at ease with consensual touch but are apprehensive for one reason or another.
It would not be for...
- Couples who already have no trouble with touch or intimacy. (Booking a tantric massage might be the better option)
- Men who think this just a great excuse for a feel-up!
Limitations with space mean can only do this with 2-4 people at a time. Both couples and individuals can apply and there will be a consultation sheet/questionnaire to complete so we can assess your needs, your suitability and how we can tweak our approach to suit where you’re at. Individual applicants will be asked to fill in a questionnaire in order for us to match you up with any other individuals on the basis of the answers each of you provide. In this respect, this amounts to a vetting process so there’s no guarantee that you can attend straight away; we’ll get back to you if a suitable date/opportunity arises.
If you are interested in this, please get in touch.
PS Bri is not only a massage therapist, but also qualified to degree level in counselling. He has also attended two post-grad couples counselling courses.
FINALLY... Watch out for a new "Links" page added under the "More" tab. It's not ready yet but when it is it'll be full of interesting and relavant links to other websites and Youtube clips on stuff to do with counselling, mental wellbeing, relationships, sexuality and massage. Hopefully on the website by the end of October.
MAKING PAYMENT. The following methods of payment are acceptable. Cash on the day, card payment on the day, Paypal transfer in advance. If choosing to pay by paypal we can give you the recipient paypal address on request, because its not our usual email address. Our preferred methods of payment are card or paypal, but we still welcome payment by cash for those who prefer this.
WITHELD PHONE NUMBERS. Due to the time-wasting and immature nature of most of the calls we receive from witheld numbers, we will no longer be answering them! So if you are a genuine enquirer but your call displays at our end as"witheld number" or "unknown number" then it will not be answered. Some clients who call from work phones may be unaware that their call is displaying "unknown number" at our end so it's worth being aware of this. We have no interest whatsoever in dealing with clients who are totally secretive and act out in the shadows. And we are not a chat line for your entertainment as you play with yourself. We seek to establish open, honest and meaningful connections with our clients and we tend to find nothing but time wasted and trouble from the type of client who witholds their number.